Posts Tagged Indifference

Love Thy Neighbor

Love Thy Neighbor

The love that enlarges not it’s borders, that is not over spreading, including, and deepening, will contract, shrivel, decay, and die.” – George MacDonald.


        When you think about the relationships you have or have had with your siblings, or those you consider as such, several things may come to mind: you might think of how much you like, appreciate, or admire them, or of how they’ve let you down, you might worry about them and their well being, or wish you could take back the nasty things you said last time you spoke, maybe you wish you spoke with them more frequently, or maybe you think you speak to them too much.  No matter what thoughts are in your mind, you have to admit, you do think about them.  We don’t get to pick our brothers and our sisters, and so we fight, we give the silent treatment, we hold grudges, but in spite of all the fighting and bickering we just aren’t able to completely do away with the basic love we feel for our siblings.  For some reason or purpose we were created with an inability to resist the brotherhood within.  Indifference doesn’t come naturally but through much practice and determination and often times only serves the purpose of masking other more painful emotions.  Often times we may wish we could feel indifferent and we may try to force ourselves into a state of indifference, but if we are truly honest with ourselves, our sibling’s existence is not easily forgotten, discarded, or ignored.

        I point this out to say, isn’t this the way it should be with all the people we are connected to.  For what is indifference, really, but the neglect of love, or a general reality of lovelessness.  Isn’t it indifference that Jesus is asking us to a cast aside when he tells the story of the good and kind Samaritan man?  Wasn’t he challenging us to open up our hearts and our worlds to care about the people who near to us; the people he puts into our paths.  The truth is we do not pick our brothers and our sisters, we do not pick our neighbors, and we do not pick the people in which we connect with along our paths.  However, indifference is a choice, a choice that goes against the very nature of our existence because we were beings created for love.  What a beautiful thing it is to recognize our kin, our kind in those who are close and connected, to see bits and pieces of ourselves in those who cross our path.

        Lord, despite the flaws and frustrations I feel towards some of those who have crossed my path, I make the choice not to be indifferent, to my neighbor, my brother, my sister, or anyone who happens to be, at any moment, standing right next to me.

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February Letter

To my friends and family, to those I know personally or barely know at all, to those I’ve passed on the street or those who have just stumbled upon this blog, to all of those who walk this world, facing their fears, discovering truth, and struggling to fulfill their true nature:  To all of you, I share my heart.

There are words and phrases that we use everyday that carry with them a certain amount of arrogance especially when used to imply we possess their exact meanings.  Phrases and words that are, in their very essence, a mystery, a riddle, or a paradox.  Words like faith, trust, courage, belief, or love.  It’s a fact of the universe that who ever may pretend to possess the full meaning of any of these words is absurdly arrogant or just insane or both.  The greatest of these mysteries is love.

The following is what I understand of love in as far as I have come into my own existence.  It’s the basics, a start, the beginning of a journey.  Love is something that must be experienced and lived, something that develops, something that moves and evolves, much like life itself.  It finds it’s meaning in motion, it’s lived forward but understood backward. Love is not something created by us and therefore it’s not something capable of being destroyed by us.  In the same way it’s not defined by or dependant on anything we do.  It’s something that lives and breathes apart from us, like a roommate we either choose to live among and remain with or depart from.  And it’s easier to understand love in pieces and fragments: moments that reveal truths about the very character of love.   Like Paul who has put love to words in that very way, explaining that true love exists in these very simple and straight forward truths.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on it’s own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

And just as Paul put forward his understanding of Love and it’s bounds and boundlessness, so will I, build from the foundation that Paul put forth and explain the aspects of Love as they have become clear to me.

“Love is both beautiful and painful.  It is not manipulative but requires and demands freedom, the choice to give or not give, to share or stay quiet, to remain vulnerable or to run away. Love concerns itself not so much with the happiness of the beloved but with their progress.  It never desires to hold back or stand in the way, but calls for perfection and completion.  Love often points to the sins and flaws of the beloved, yet is always willing to forgive. Love is neither selfless nor selfish, but longs for the perfect balance of the two.   It never completely walks away or dies quietly for true love will always endure all types of trials, tribulations, and troubles.  Love never gives up: for it’s very tightly connected to hope, always willing to believe in the possibility of redemption.”

Just as everyone possesses their own personally unique fingerprint, they also bring to every relationship their own uniquely evolved balance of love.  Love is like paint on a canvas, each person is going to balance all the aspects of love differently creating their own masterpiece upon their canvas, resulting in uniquely beautiful pieces of art.  And just like any true artist will tell you, ones art is never fully developed or mastered.  Love is not complete until life takes it’s final bow, it takes a lifetime to master, it takes an eternity to learn how to love best and most best, it takes forever and a day of trial and error, of moments of beauty and pain, of courage and vulnerability.  Anything can happen along the journey towards the perfection of love, it’s about learning, growing, and evolving.  It requires of us to endure the pain and continue loving even when we no longer feel it: for love is not something to be felt but something to be lived.

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Love Is Never Indifferent

Love, in it’s own nature, demands the perfecting of the beloved; that the mere ‘kindness’ which tolerates anything except suffering in its object is, in that respect, at the opposite pole from Love.  When we fall in love with a woman, do we cease to care whether she is clean or dirty, fair or foul?  Does any woman regard it as a sign of love in a man that he neither knows nor cares how she is looking?  Love may, indeed love the beloved when her beauty is lost; but not because it is lost.  Love may forgive all infirmities and love still in spite of them:  but love cannot cease to will their removal.  Love is more sensitive than hatred itself to every blemish in the beloved… Of all powers he (Love) forgives most, but he condones least: he is pleased with little, but demands all.”

- C.S. Lewis (The Problem of Pain)

What I love about this small little paragraph is that within this simple observation lies the very reason why “true” love for each other will always endure.  Time and trouble will always seperate those who truly love from those who don’t.

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